Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day: October 15th

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is October 15th. Back in 2007, I created this worship service as a space to honor, recognize and remember all those who have lost a child due to miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion or infant death. This worship service was to give space to grieve a loss that is often not recognized in the church at all, without judgment or reservation. All who had lost a child were welcome to attend.

I have posted here the order of worship along with some of the prayers and the reflection I used. In my meditation, I used ideas and references from the book Unspeakable Losses by Kim Kluger-Bell.  In the service itself, we had a time of reflection with music, and planned for people to come as they felt led to light a candle in remembrance for a child lost or a friend or loved one who had lost a child due to pregnancy or infant death.  At the end of the service, we also had each person come take a stone from the table with candles, a reminder of God’s presence in our life, knowing that life’s journey is hard and difficult having gone through such a loss.

We advertised this service well, promoting it through all the local church newsletters and announcing it in the local paper and at the college.  Only one person came.  But we still held the service, and I feel it was important to do so for that one person, but also recognizing the grief that many go through alone and unannounced in our congregations.

Pregnancy Loss Service–Prayers and Reflection

Pregnancy Loss Service


2 Responses to Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day: October 15th

  1. […] Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day: October 15th […]

  2. […] A service for Pregnancy Loss by Rev. Mindi Welton-Mitchell, (please acknowledge Mindi’s work if you use it in an order of service) Welcome You are all welcome in this place. You are all welcome to remember, to grieve, to give thanks, to be angry, to cry, to share, to be silent, to sing. We were created as human beings, and in this place you are welcome to be who you are and to feel what you feel. Pregnancy loss is a loss not recognized in our society. It is a loss not recognized in our churches. It is a loss that many of us suffer in silence. Here we have come together to remember, as we cannot forget. Here we have come to be with others who have experienced this loss, and we know that many more are outside these walls who have also felt this loss. We come to this place from many backgrounds. In this place we will not judge or be judged. In this place we will remember that our own experience is not the same as others. We all have different stories, stories that have meaning to us. It is not our place to take them away. But it is in this place that we may remember together. At times it may be hard to pray, it may be hard to acknowledge God when we remember this loss. But we come knowing that when we don’t have the strength, there is strength that is present here, in which we all can draw on. […]

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