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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day is October 15th. Back in 2007, I created this worship service as a space to honor, recognize and remember all those who have lost a child due to miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion or infant death. This worship service was to give space to grieve a loss that is often not recognized in the church at all, without judgment or reservation. All who had lost a child were welcome to attend.
I have posted here the order of worship along with some of the prayers and the reflection I used. In my meditation, I used ideas and references from the book Unspeakable Losses by Kim Kluger-Bell. In the service itself, we had a time of reflection with music, and planned for people to come as they felt led to light a candle in remembrance for a child lost or a friend or loved one who had lost a child due to pregnancy or infant death. At the end of the service, we also had each person come take a stone from the table with candles, a reminder of God’s presence in our life, knowing that life’s journey is hard and difficult having gone through such a loss.
We advertised this service well, promoting it through all the local church newsletters and announcing it in the local paper and at the college. Only one person came. But we still held the service, and I feel it was important to do so for that one person, but also recognizing the grief that many go through alone and unannounced in our congregations.